Hello and welcome to my tiny corner of the online world,
I write words that I hope will help girls, young women and women of all ages to make better choices for themselves and their lives, and the lives of those they care about. I write from my own lived experience, the work I have done to improve myself, the reflections, the effort, the books, the podcasts, the therapy sessions, and everything else that has to happen to yank you out of your fog tunnel of unconscious living.
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My hope is that even one girl, young woman or woman of any age discovers something that will help them to grow and feel more secure in herself and in her choices.
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A welcome note
I wish I'd had the tools to recognise, and do something about my low EQ much sooner in my life. This is why I believe a 'good enough' EQ is essential to our health and wellbeing, and this is why I write about emotional intelligence.
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Having a low EQ, and not realising it until such a late point in my life (four decades in), is about as nice a feeling as waking up to how much time you've wasted in the wrong situations and making choices that don't serve you. When I discovered that the adolescent brain period is from age 12-24 and is a prime time to wire and rewire, I couldn't help but think that we need to do more to ensure this age group has the opportunity to achieve healthy brain integration.
Without diminishing anyone's pain or reality, I will use my quill to add a wash of nourishing and empowering sunshine coloured ink to a subject area that is often covered in grey clouds.
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Please know that I am not here to give advice. I will signpost and reference quotes, information, advice or sources.
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To peace and prosperity,
Jacqs x
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Meet Jacqs
Having a rock bottom EQ had a negative impact on my life. I had low self-esteem, zero self-confidence, unconsciously chose relationships (and 'situationships') with men that weren't healthy, chose a career that didn't align with me, bought a flat out of convenience, viewed my finances from a place of lack, was a chronic over thinker and tortured myself by comparing myself to others.
In 2018 , I took hold of my situation and started counselling. When I was asked, 'why are you here'? My response was simple, 'I've been single for almost ten years and I need to take responsibility for it'. I went for eight session and her parting words to me were, 'go and get on with your life' which was sage advice but I knew I wasn't where I needed to be but I didn't know where to turn next.
This led to four long years of trying to figure it all out by myself - reflection, ruminating, introspection and 'doing the work'. I believe it was far too long and it could have done more harm than good.
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And then I reached the point where I chose to start focusing on my future and creating the life I wanted for myself. Which is a much better place to be.
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